One of the most difficult things in life is to be able to discern our own faults and weaknesses. At times we are rather keen on seeing the faults in others but somehow lack that ability when it comes to our own shortcomings. Here is a simple test. Look at those around you and especially those with whom you interact regularly. Choose of 3 or 4 of them who have aspects of their character or personality which could definitely use improvement. Whether it is a particular blatant failing or a minor flaw, take a mental note about them and how puzzling it is that they are not able to see it.
Be very honest about how correct your observations are and then ask yourself this question, “How many people are making the same conclusions about me?”
You may be thinking that it doesn’t matter what people say about me, and yes that is ultimately true. But if we are quite certain about our critiques of others, what makes their observations any less correct about us?
Finding shortcomings in others is not difficult at all but when we try point that finger at ourselves, the critical eye of discernment is not quite so quick to judge. Why is it that we effortlessly find the problems with others yet struggle to find our own? I believe that many of us have developed patterns which cause us to make decisions that can be deliberately punishing or sabotaging and the first step toward this is simply coming to that realization. How this can be undone is a remarkably healing step; to be discussed soon.