Photo by Robert J Morales
“Healing often means you are getting to the heart of the matter.”
Although this is the finale on a series of articles about emotional healing, it is most definitely NOT an invitation to stop pursuing one of the most beneficial endeavors a person can do for self-growth. In fact, I would invite any new readers to examine the past articles a little more closely beginning here. Emotional healing can be exhausting because it often involves employing different approaches for the same person. Keep in mind that one of the most effective actions a person can take is utilizing someone to guide and facilitate you throughout this process.
Unfortunately, the human psyche did not evolve to heal itself the way our physical body has. In an article written for the online publication “Nextavenue” it explicitly states, “Your body is a self-healing organism.” Even though many of us make lifestyle choices which hinder this ability, healing is still one of the best functions our body performs.
Mental wounds, on the other hand, are not visible and regrettably are not always addressed with the same urgency as skin abrasions.
Truthfully, what is often a more seemingly-natural approach to dealing with psychological trauma is to do our best not to think about it or try to forget it ever occurred. However, in many cases, it’s crucial to confront what happened and this is never easy for anyone who has suffered through a traumatic experience to want to reexamine and reopen those devastating feelings and memories. Although it’s completely understandable why anyone would feel this way, it can also be a roadblock along our emotional healing journey.
There are many factors to keep in mind that help assess the emotional impact and scars that were left behind. The type of abuse, its duration, and/or how many incidents occurred, all will definitely impact the healing process. For those counseling or guiding others, it’s also vital to keep in mind that person’s personality and boundaries because the last thing anyone trying to help someone should do is make the situation worse.
What has me worried most in writing these articles is that someone might misunderstand or misinterpret what was written. Much of my emphasis for emotional healing is on self-forgiveness. If I were to state uncategorically, that you “must forgive yourself to begin the healing process” could easily anger many. Their first thought might be, “Why should I forgive myself? I wasn’t the one doing those terrible things to me” and they would be absolutely correct. But my question to them would be, “Did you ever once think to yourself, ‘I must have done something to deserve this’ or ask yourself ‘what did I do to deserve it’ “? That thought is precisely what we should forgive ourselves for ever thinking.
Emotional healing has its challenges and is often something we’d rather not face. But when we do confront it and begin the recovery process, there is hardly anything as rewarding. Many have encountered appalling situations yet came through it a better person. Even though they would not wish that incident on anyone, it shows that it’s absolutely possible to thrive after adversity and this is what healing of any sort is about. My healing revealed to me my purpose; and if it were possible, I’d wish the same for everyone else as well.
If you, or someone you know, have struggled with emotional healing, please feel free to contact me directly. We’ll begin immediately to work on a program that will empower you to become Victorious over this Struggle.
My thanks to Robert J. Morales for the beautiful picture. Find out more about him on his website or connect with him on LinkedIn. I look forward to your comments.